Welcome to Sons of Narcissistic Mothers .org. This site was created specifically for male children of women with a Narcissistic Personality Disorder (NPD). While there has already been quite a bit written about daughters of narcissistic mothers (DoNMs), little has been dedicated to their sons. This site therefore aims to give a voice to sons of narcissistic mothers (SoNMs). Like their sisters, they too see their lives very much impacted by the emotional unavailability and the manipulations of their mothers. Possibly, many go through life without ever realising that it was conditioned and controlled by their mother to the extent that they were never really in charge and able to be their true selves. But some do see the light at some point. Chances are that you are reading this because you are one of them, or closely linked to a SoNM.

The core objectives of this site are to offer SoNMs a safe space where they can be validated, guided and supported by others who know and understand the life predicament of a SoNM.

•  VALIDATION
Like most abused children, sons of narcissistic mothers were denied the acknowledgment of their abuse. In most cases the denial extends to the whole family and friends. It is important, after so many years of denial, for the victim of abuse to be validated. No, you didn't make it up. No, it's not your fault. Yes, it happened. Yes, you can recover and reclaim your life. But to fix a problem you need to acknowledge it and face it. On this site you will find information and links to resources that should help you understand better your personal experience as the child of a difficult parent. You can also contribute by sharing your own story. Each one of us has a different story, a unique variant of a difficult childhood and/or adolescence. The more we exchange, see other people's reality, and share with others what happened to us, the more we can accept and see the reality of our own experience.

•  INFORMATION AND GUIDANCE
There is a lot of information out there and sometimes it's difficult to make sense of it all or know who to trust. The information gathered on this site aims to be as clear, objective and helpful as possible. For this we need your help. If you feel that any information on this site is either erroneous, misleading, or in away potentially harmful to anyone, please contact us and tell us what and why. You are also invited to suggest the addition of any helpful information.

•  EXCHANGE AND SUPPORT
Most of us were very much alone in dealing with parental abuse. While some of us find it difficult to ask for help or trust anyone as a result, fighting the battle for recovery and freedom from abuse is much easier with the help and support of others. Through exchange and mutual understanding, we hope that this site can become a good source of peer support.

Your mother may be narcissistic, borderline, or both, or have another type of personality disorder. If you have a 'difficult' mother but are unsure about the nature of her dysfunction, we recommend that you start here (we recommend reading the useful information on the light's house website, NOT necesserarely taking the $7 test they offer, which we haven't tried and are not promoting).

First Published: 13 May 2014